There are two kinds of questions. Self-report questions ask what someone believes about themselves: "Are you serious about building?" Everyone says yes, because saying yes costs nothing. Position questions ask where someone actually stands: "Do you own the land?" A person can only answer that correctly if it's true.
The opening question breaks this rule on purpose. It's a simple image choice, and it isn't there to score anything. It's there to get a yes before anything real is asked. Once someone has answered one question, the rest is a smaller decision.
From there, every other question replaces a soft version with its costly twin:
Instead of asking...
What's your budget range?
Ask...
What's the status of your land: owned, under contract, or still looking?
Because...
Land status is checkable. Budget is whatever they think you want to hear.
Instead of asking...
Are you serious about building?
Ask...
Where are you with financing: pre-approved, talking to a lender, or haven't started?
Because...
Financing stage reflects effort already spent. Seriousness is just a feeling.
Instead of asking...
When do you want to start?
Ask...
Do you have plans already, or are you starting from a blank site?
Because...
Plans are evidence of time invested. A start date is a guess.
| Instead of asking... | Ask... | Because... |
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| What's your budget range? | What's the status of your land: owned, under contract, or still looking? | Land status is checkable. Budget is whatever they think you want to hear. |
| Are you serious about building? | Where are you with financing: pre-approved, talking to a lender, or haven't started? | Financing stage reflects effort already spent. Seriousness is just a feeling. |
| When do you want to start? | Do you have plans already, or are you starting from a blank site? | Plans are evidence of time invested. A start date is a guess. |
The pattern, not the specific questions, is what travels to your business: replace "tell me about yourself" with "show me where you stand."